Monday, October 6, 2014

Why I left the "Rat Race"




I remember the day I left the "Rat Race" like it was yesterday.  I was overweight, glued to an office, working on salary, way more then 40 hours a week and I was the guy who ran around trying to stay positive, but was completely negative, saying I had no time for anything.

My life felt like I was a Gerbil on a wheel, it was suffocating me.  I had just came back from a National Conference in Las Vegas. I was leading four or five community and work projects, and I was dealing with an unexpected death of an important person in my life. My phone was ringing non-stop about the meeting that day.



I was jet lagged, getting bombarded by e-mails, texts... Call me back! Important meeting today! And I sat there saying.. Is this what life is really about? Chase money, forget people.  I know a truth and this isn't it. My time spent in the Marine Corps made me realize how short and fragile life truly is.

I was trying to communicate to almost everyone what I was going through.  It was evident no one cared, it wasn't about me, it was about them.  The only thing my boss would hear was, you must be at the meeting. I remember sitting there looking at my computer screen seeing emails come in, my phone was going off non stop.  I shut my door and I closed the computer and unplugged the office phone.  I hadn't prayed in awhile and I had drifted away from my faith.

In that moment I closed my eyes and said, "God, this kind of life isn't for me. I have no clue where I'm going to go, but I am not staying here.  I pray for all these people that they find you and that they realize there is so much more to life. God, I pray you will bring an opportunity into my life and redirect my life for the better.  I have absolutely no clue where I'm going after I leave this office besides to the funeral home, but I trust that you will guide my life.  I'm coming home."

I decided in that moment, I was resigning from my position, and I no longer would return.  Almost immediately after I informed boss, he said, "Offer accepted. Pack your stuff and go. Leave the key on the desk." 

Funny I thought to myself, Why would anyone want to live this way? I honestly have no clue where I am going besides the funeral home right now, but there was a huge weight lifted off me that day.

The biggest revelation came to me in the following weeks.

Success without fulfillment is failure. You can look so great on the outside, but who cares if you are dying on the inside.

So here's where it gets interesting, I had realized social media was taking off and I started building an account part time to try to reach out to like minded people who were going through similar life struggles.  I named it @MarineProblems.  I thought someone out there has to understand.  At the time the account was fairly new, only relativey 6 or 7 months old and I almost quit on it after a few buddies were like why would you waste your time with that?  Also, it kind of became the laughing stock to some people. Yet had I not followed my intuition, I'd never be on this current path.



Today that account has nearly 7,000 followers and consistently grows every single day. I interact with thousands of people daily. It's almost mind-blowing. Twitter recently released my data to me and I reach near a million people a month and rising.

Just a few months after I had walked away from my job, I got a message through that very account about an opportunity, that I almost blew off to be honest.  Had I not listened with an open mind, the path I am on would never be possible.  It's crazy how such small things can transform your life forever.  To this day, it's the only opportunity that has ever came through that account. God answers prayers.

All the sudden thousands of people who had similar stories came flooding into my life, and I felt like I had won, but really the battle was just beginning.  I had to go hard to work on myself and undo, unravel all the junk in my heart, the hurt in my eyes and I had to get Back in the Fight.

So I decided to take an entrepreneurial journey..  If no one has informed you yet, it's not very popular to most people.  If you too want to turn from the "Rat Race" stand by cause here's some of the rocks that will be thrown at you:

You're going to fail. 
Do you know the people that succeed are one in a million?  
Why would you throw your life away? 
Haha you're doing what?! 
Are you crazy? 
Those things never work. 
Good Luck with that. 
I don't think you'll make it.  
Do you know that no one will hire you? Your resume has a huge gap in it.
What are you doing? Just get in with the State. They'll take care of you.
Oh you're just one of those crazy dreamers..
All the good ideas are taken.
You really think you have what it takes?
Oh look out, here he is, the next Steve Jobs, The next Mark Zuckerberg.
Oh here he is, Mr Dreamer, Mr Positive... Watch out!!

Quite frankly none of those phrases even effect me.  Because most people don't know my story and the very people chucking them at me for the most part are exactly where I used to be.  My whole life changed on that decision.  Everything in my life changed. All the sudden pro athletes, famous musicians, motivational speakers, some of the top entrepreneurs in the nation were showing up around me.

I have legit done some of the most incredible things in the last few years that no cubicle would ever allow me to do.  

Understand that if you choose this path, you are going to have to walk into the room and be the weirdo for awhile, the freak, the one that gets laughed at. After awhile when good stuff starts happening to you all those statements and questions above start to get more minimal because they see the change in you and they actually start thinking, Damn he might be right.

The number one question starts to become How?  How do you get so lucky? Must be nice to do all the things you do.  There is a simple answer... It starts with a decision. Had I never walked away from everything that day, none of these things would have ever happened to me.  You see opportunites are all around us, we just are blind to them because we are too caught up in the race to even see them.

The reason most will never ever turn from the "Rat Race" is it takes a lot of guts to do it. You have to go against the flow of traffic, throw away the days of the week, the hours out the window, be misunderstood by almost all your friends and peers. There's uncertainty, there's trials, tribulations, incredible sacrifice, risks to take and days where you will flat out be exhausted.

The funny thing is that's why you end up surrounded by the elite. The pro athletes, the musicians, the motivational speakers, the successful entrepreneurs because at one point in there life, they made the very same decision as me.

I challenge you to go study someone famous and look back to where their journey started.  They didn't just land on top of the mountain.  They had a similar journey and the best part is anyone can do it. You can do it, I can do it. Last time I checked, we all get the same 24 hours in a day, 365 days a year.  Ultimately, it's your daily choices and actions that will run you and decide the course of your life.  It's why entrepreneurs are big picture thinkers. They have to see themselves there before it ever happens. Everyday you're stepping forward is a step closer to your dream.

It honestly doesn't matter who you are.  Every single day is a new chance to hit the reset button and redirect your life forever.

In my opinion, it's better to go to bed fulfilled and tired at night then it is drained, bored and sick of your life.

My best advice to you is chase the vision, not the money. Life is to short to ask what if? You have unique gifts inside you that none of us have. Tap into those.  And hopefully one day we will be hearing your story.

God bless.